The New Blog Is Here!!!

I promise that this is the last blog move. We PURCHASED the domain name, so I’ll be there indefinitely πŸ™‚

We also had to change the name. Instead of “slowfortheconezone”, we changed it to “ourconezone”. This was mainly because the state of California has already claimed the first one for CALTrans. Wouldn’t want them thinking I’m some terrorist group!

Oddly enough, I had the most traffic yesterday that I’ve EVER had on this blog. This is probably because I forgot that Facebook automatically published my post on Facebook. People probably saw the title, “Exciting Things” and assumed I’m pregnant (definitely not). Everyone pays attention with those sorts of announcements.

If you were a follower here, make sure to click on the new button on the top right!

Without further ado…

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Exciting Things!

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Exciting things are happening here in my tiny blogosphere. Exactly a month ago, we transferred all of my content from my old private site to this new, public site.

And now? My Trader Joe’s Meal Plan won the PINterest incentive blog hop over at It will go live tomorrow, with 31 different pinners putting it out to their hundreds of followers. I’m so beyond stoked!

Also, thanks to Pinterest, this little bloggy blog is getting around 200 hits a day! That’s also pretty rad. 200 is not much in the blog world, but it’s better than I ever expected after a month.

Lastly, Jesse and I Β decided to purchase a domain name and a web hoster, rather than using the free-ness of wordpress. There were just too many limits to what we wanted to do, the least of which is that wordpress does not allow paid advertising (an eventual goal).

So…for any blogger or wordpress followers….the new site will launch tomorrow, hopefully! We still have a few more kinks to work out. I’ll be posting it here tomorrow morning, waiting a few days, then be setting this blog to automatically forward any visitors over to the new site.

Whew! It’s gonna be quite a week! I’ll also be posting a few paleo/gluten-free recipes that we’ve been testing/experimenting with, along with showing our new bathtub remodel!

Thank you all for reading. It really really really means a lot to me πŸ™‚


My friend, Robin, wrote this article on her blog and I absolutely LOVE it. I’m always so impressed and touched when a friend of mine is able to put a crucially important concept into words. If you are a mom, stay at home or not, this article will speak to you!

Robin @ Homegrown Living

Good Blog Post

I’ve always found my friend Sarah’s blog enjoyable, but I thought that her post today was especially good. Read about how she labored at home for 3 days with her baby, then finally made the decision to transfer to the hospital.

Isn't her baby just the CUTEST THING EVER??? Sorry, Sarah, hope you don't mind me stealing pictures of your adorable girl. She even has my sister's nickname-- Nell!

Isn’t her baby just the CUTEST THING EVER??? Sorry, Sarah, hope you don’t mind me stealing pictures of your adorable girl. She even has my sister’s nickname– Nell!

What I found so refreshing about this blog post was her absolute honesty. It was helpful for me, as well, to realize the immense amount of guilt and shame associated with “failing” at an all natural birth. I’ve always struggled with empathy in every area of my life– I try, but I’m just really bad at it, turns out.

Sarah’s post helped me to understand the other side of things so that I can avoid hurting feelings. Out of all my friends who’ve had babies, 90% of them (including me) had a ROUGH labor with their first baby. Around half of those ended up in the hospital with an epidural, despite the fact that they took tons of measures to avoid it. By the grace of God, I made it through my 22+ hour labor without transferring or needing drugs (although G did come out BACK OF HIS NECK first! Yikes!). But it’s safe to say that I could use some help with empathy in this area.

Also, she was RIGHT ON with how her struggles with breastfeeding changed her outlook towards mothers who use formula. My first two weeks breastfeeding were literal hell-on-earth, full of tons of cussing and “WHY GOD, WHY??”. Then, when he was 10 months old, I had to use two months worth of formula on him because I got pregnant again. I’m so grateful that my experience with Anthony has been the complete opposite, but I’m also glad that it wasn’t my FIRST experience, or else I wouldn’t be able to understand the other side of it. If feeding Anthony had been my first experience with breastfeeding, I’d have probably put my foot in my mouth about a dozen times, then fallen flat on my face when I struggled the next time around.

Baby Grayson

You may have heard about the mom who posted pictures of her tragically deformed baby, only to have her pictures deleted from Facebook for “content”. After all hell reigned down on them, Facebook finally apologized this week.

I just read this woman’s blog, and cried and cried. A little family of four, told by the doctors during pregnancy that their 3rd baby had Anencephaly and would only live for a few hours after birth. The mother chose to continue the pregnancy anyways. Her last few blog articles outline the one precious day they got to spend with him. She doesn’t sound depressed or defeated, just grateful for God and His mercy.

I am all tears over here, and just cannot.even.imagine.

On Being a Queen

I absolutely LOVE this blog post that I read this morning, about being the Queen of your own family. It is exactly how I feel most days (when I’m not pregnant, achy and sleepless). Read it if you’re a mom– it will truly brighten your day (or make you cry a little, if you have the– pronounced just like in Big Fat Greek Wedding– “hormone-eeez”).

Now, off to change a HUGE poopy diaper. Gregory has now stopped his playing 3, I count 3, times, to grunt and make “that face”. Two of them, he actually had to hold onto the furniture for support. Oh man. The joys πŸ™‚

Brilliant article

I mentioned “Momastery” on my blog roll last week. Today, she reposted a brilliant article she wrote for the Huffington post about the vehement debate between stay-at-home moms and working moms, and how the debate is counter-productive at best. It’s very well put and completely right on.

Also, she totally had my vote when she mentioned Jim Carey’s movie, “Liar Liar” πŸ™‚

Mommy Guilt is like that scene from “Liar Liar” in which Jim Carrey enters a bathroom, throws himself against the walls, slams his head into the toilet, and rubs soap into his eyes. When a confused observer asks what on Earth he’s doing he says, “I WAS KICKIN’ MY ASS! DO YA MIND?”

I understand the act of kicking one’s own ass. I do it all the time.

What I don’t understand is why some ladies insist on making everything worse by kicking each other’s asses.


Just yesterday, Courtney Jenny and I were talking about how some “Mom-Blogs” sugar-coat their lives and end up only being a Photo-shopped version of their real life at home with kids.

I explained that I really have no patience for these kinds of blogs– I like real, and I like honest. Sometimes, it’s inspirational to read someone’s blog when they have it all together, (because, come on, let’s not hate on competent people, you know who you are), but inspiration is not always what I need. Instead, sometimes, I need to read about someone who wants so so badly to give up, but chooses to overcome instead. On certain days, this kind of encouragement isn’t just helpful, it keeps me sane.

So, I thought I would list a few of the blogs that I read, in case you, too, are a mom that needs to keep sane once in a while. I’ve included the blog by posting the link to one of my favorite articles from each:

Little Miss MommaΒ on Momma Guilt: Although I didn’t include it, you need to read their love story! It’s so sweet that she decided to write it down in story form for her kids to read someday πŸ™‚

The Wiegands on how she lost her 3rd baby at 14 weeks. If you turn on your volume, her blog plays such pretty music. Love it! Also, she has the most gorgeous kids I’ve ever seen. So, I guess if you have ugly kids, don’t read this blog (gotcha! every mother thinks her kids are the cutest thing ever, right?). They are also poor as dirt, which makes them extremely relatable πŸ™‚

Momastery on 7 years of marriage and 3 kids later. I don’t agree with everything she says, but I gotta hand it to her, she’s encouraging. Big time. If you want to laugh until you pee your pants, just read her archives. There’s one post about Target that had Courtney and I crying. GO for it.

Caved In: When Parenthood Collapses Around You on refusing to feel Mommy Guilt, no matter how hard others might push it on you. I included her blog because she’s a fulltime working mom (a nurse) and provides a good dose of the “other side” for me to understand and try and relate to. Her son is just a few months behind G, so it’s fun to compare notes.




I used a random number generator, and the winner is Pam Bartel!

Pam, I’ll send the giftcard with Jesse on Monday to give to Rich πŸ˜€

Oh, and…

Oh, I forgot to add– even if you don’t want coffee, please leave me a little note or comment. It makes my day, seriously. I usually count over 75 hits/day on this blog, but I don’t know who half of you are!

So, be a friend. Leave a comment. Thanks πŸ™‚

And #1001. Feels weird.